Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation. Neil has spent the last decade of his life as the Director of Leadership Development at Walmart, which he left this year to pursue his writing projects. He is also the writer and creator of the 1000 Awesome Things blog, which has won Best Blog in the World two years in a row. Connor sits down with Neil to discuss some of the secrets to happiness and why it is so hard to find.
[2:25] Grab a pen and paper for this episode!
[3:10] What was Neil’s defining moment?
[6:00] What was it like giving a TED Talk?
[8:35] Beautiful things come out of darkness.
[9:15] Are you building a business on the side? Neil says don’t quit your day job.
[10:05] Neil was not a confident person, but when he started his side business, he gained more confidence. This lead him to being promoted at his full-time job.
[11:25] Despite Neil’s success, he didn’t leave his full-time job at Walmart until this year.
[11:55] Connor completely understands as he just left his corporate job 6 months ago.
[12:30] Let’s talk happiness! What are some of the secrets of happiness?
[13:40] We want happiness, but we can’t seem to get it.
[15:00] How can we give our children happiness if we ourselves aren’t even happy?
[15:25] The Happiness Equation is a personal letter to Neil’s child.
[16:25] You have to be happy first in order to find success. It’s not the other way around.
[17:35] You live 10 years longer if you’re happy.
[19:15] When Connor was experiencing a dark time in his life, what really pulled him out of it was gratitude journaling.
[20:35] Never retire!
[22:00] Find a reason to get out of bed every morning.
[22:40] Retirement is dangerous and it creates loss of purpose.
[23:55] Neil talks about the four S – Social, Structure, Stimulation, and Story.
[25:35] What are the biggest misconceptions about happiness?
[28:25] How do you overcome criticism? Do it for you.
[30:45] Would you do this task for free? If the answer is no, you’re on the wrong track.
[32:20] What happens if you’re ‘too busy’? How can you not be ‘too busy’?
[40:40] Let’s talk about mindset and why it’s so important.
[43:15] When your day is going south, remember that you’ve already won the lottery. You have it good.
[48:00] All you have to do is write down 5 gratitudes a week and you’ll see an improvement in your happiness.
[50:25] Recognize you’re in a bad mood, recognize that it will end, and recognize that those two things are okay and you will feel good again.
[53:15] Who is the most authentically happy person Neil has ever met?
[54:00] What is the one experience Neil recommends to anyone?
[54:25] What is the most underrated trait in modern day life?
[54:40] What is one book Neil would take when stranded on an island?
[55:00] What was the single biggest lesson Neil learned at Harvard?
[56:25] Who is the most influential person on happiness?
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Srinivas Rao, founder of The Unmistakeable Creative website and podcast, and author of Unmistakable, has interviewed over 600 thought leaders and people from all walks of life on his show. Today, he joins Connor on the show to discuss creativity, a bit of his background, where he found his drive, and why we should always learn from others, but not mimic them. Srinivas says that we do not need more copies - we need originals, willing to travel the road that's never been traveled before, because true success is work that no one else can replicate.
[1:40] Let's talk creativity on today's show.
[3:15] Famous on the internet? This concept is amusing to Srinivas.
[4:45] What does Srinivas's name mean?
[7:10] Who is Srinivas?
[8:55] Srinivas downloaded Snapchat for the first time yesterday.
[10:15] Everyone should get on Snapchat? Everyone should start a podcast? No!
[11:00] Srinivas loves the platform 'Medium'.
[11:35] Find one platform/thing and then get really, really good at it.
[12:40] What was Srinivas's childhood like?
[14:55] Srinivas always looks for things he can be exceptional at, not average at.
[19:30] Srinivas is never satisfied.
[22:45] Where does creativity actually come from? How is it cultivated?
[27:10] What kind of action steps can people take to feel more creative?
[29:15] Be the only option for what you do, not the best, the only one. Srinivas explains.
[31:35] Why do you want to be like Tim Ferriss? Why?
[32:40] Learn what other people have done, but do not mimic them.
[35:00] Srinivas talks about his book, Unmistakable.
[40:30] True success is creating work that no one else can replicate.
[46:45] Srinivas talks about crowdfunding.
[48:45] Community is tremendously important and plays so many different roles in our lives.
[51:00] Do you have somebody to call at 2:00 am in the morning?
[51:30] Srinivas talks about the 'impact zone' and how waves in the ocean come in sets.
[57:05] What was Srinivas's favorite interview that he's done for his podcast?
[58:25] One experience Srinivas recommends? Catch a wave.
[58:35] Underrated trick for modern day success? The ability to unplug.
[58:35] What book would Srinivas take if he was stranded on an island? Hard to answer.
[59:00] What movie would he take? Blow with Johnny Dep.
[59:20] Who is the most influential creative person of all time? Walt Disney.
[1:00:15] What legacy would Srinivas like to leave behind?
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Phil T Mistlberger is an expert on masculinity and brotherhood and has worked in this space for over 30 years. He is the author of four critically acclaimed books on the subject of men's work and is the founder of The Samurai Brotherhood. Phil discusses the differences between men today vs. back 20-30 years ago and what the men of today's generation are seeking the most.
[2:40] Who is Phil and how did he get started?
[7:00] Phil discusses Robert Bly's book, Iron John and the deep connection men need to have.
[7:20] Men have not been around to raise their sons. They've been raised by mothers.
[8:45] What do men currently struggle with the most? Has this trend changed over the last 30 years?
[10:10] The way men communicate has been disrupted by technology.
[12:15] Do Millennial men lack grit?
[13:15] There's a weird mix of resentment and entitlement in the average Millennial man.
[16:40] Millennial men are seeking more of their masculine side when they come to Phil.
[21:30] The ideal is to have both male and female traits. Values from the mother and grit from the father.
[23:35] How does Phil help with developing grit?
[30:05] Men are inclined to be loners, so Phil recommends joining a community to build a stronger bond with others.
[32:10] Where does your self-worth come from? For men, it's tied up in activities and what they can do for other people.
[35:25] Young men tend to have less competition with older men.
[39:10] What’s the importance of being challenged?
[41:45] Where is masculinity headed? It's going beyond blind competition.
[46:50] Men's work tends to be much more open these days and more people are aware of it.
[49:10] What does legacy look like to Phil?
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Iron John by Robert Bly
Paradise Lost by John Milton
Michael Bungay Stanier was banned from his high school graduation for "the balloon incident", was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and has held a number of jobs where he had little or no impact. Through his experiences, he founded Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do more great work. On today's show, he discusses his latest book with Roger, The Coaching Habit and how you can say less, ask more, and change the way you lead others.
[1:45] What was Michael's defining moment?
[6:45] What is Michael up to these days?
[8:20] Michael talks about his latest book, The Coaching Habit.
[13:30] Slow down on giving advice, but stay curious for longer.
[17:00] If Michael could pick one type of person to read his book, it would be the busy manager.
[20:30] Did you know that boys are much more emotionally expressive than girls are in early childhood?
[22:00] There are seven essential questions you need to ask yourself. Michael explains further.
[25:40] Believe it or not, people do not learn when you give them really great advice.
[25:55] People really learn when they have a moment to reflect on what just happened.
[28:30] The Coaching Habit has been the #1 coaching book on Amazon since it launched 9 weeks ago.
[29:40] What legacy would Michael like to leave behind?
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